Kinky Sex Learning – What Is “Subdrop”?

Kinky Sex Learning – What Is “Subdrop”?

Subdrop – in all the erotica books that I have ever read about BDSM, subdrop is a topic that’s never really flushed out as well as it should. After reading Ana’s first spanking session – really, the very first time she’s ever been in any kind of D/s scenario – the opportunity to talk about subdrop appeared. Ana was going through it, just like many other submissives have done in the past, and will do in the future.

I turn into my pillow and the sluice gates open… and for the first time in years, I am sobbing uncontrollably into my pillow.

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What is subdrop? When experiencing the ‘high’ that comes along with sessioning – the increased adrenaline, the release of hormones, the physical tensioning that comes from the experience, you will eventually come down from that space. When it happens, it’s called subdrop. Submissives experience this in a number of ways, including depression, extreme tiredness, or even the feeling that you are hung over.

I tried to find the exact quote when Anastasia Steele goes through subdrop, but there isn’t one passage that defines it perfectly. She starts off even before Christian leaves with her subconscious calling her a whore. When Christian is about to leave, she starts tearing up. Her call to her mother is tense, full of emotions that she wants to share and have her mother help ‘heal her’, but she can’t. It happens again when Kate asks her what is wrong, and Ana has to lie about the pain. Finally ending with the emails to Christian where we see a clear cut sign that Ana needs help. She needs someone to be there to help her through this first time subdrop – preferably her Dominant Christian.

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This is where one of my worries – that Fifty Shades may be viewed as a how-to book for a BDSM relationship rears its head. While I think that Christian did the right thing and returned to Ana once he realized what state she was in, he really shouldn’t have left in the first place. As an experienced Dom, he should have made Ana aware of subdrop and what happens after a session, other than just oiling her sore backside.

There’s little one can do to prevent subdrop from happening in the first place. You can be in a completely committed, fully communicative and honest relationship and still experience emotional subdrop after a session. You can guard against the physical aspects of subdrop by making sure you are property hydrated before, during, and after your session. Try and avoid sessioning on an empty stomach, or when you are under the weather. Make sure your sugar levels are where they should be as well – drinking juice helps this. These really only help the purely physical aspects of subdrop – not the emotional ones.

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Its subdrop aftercare that is most important. For the physical side of things, make sure that you have a proper and fully stocked first aid kit to help those bumps and bruises that need more attention. Some submissives create subdrop kits that have the tools they need to help deal with the crash. You may also want to have a sub-buddy that you can call and help you through the tougher times, if your Dom is not available to be there for you. (In my opinion, though, if physically possible – the Dom needs to be the one helping you through the subdrop.)

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If you want to read more about subdrop, there are a number of web sites that can help. The Emotional Side of Subdrop, Seeker’s page on Subdrop, and Different Equal’s page on Subdrop are a few that are quite informative.

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